Grief

oowolf · Posted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:16 pm Post subject: Re: Grief

"You have to be lost in order to be found." Lilias Folen

madison · Heavy Crude Joined: Mar 12, 2005 Posts: 255

{{{{Shannymara}}}}

Many good vibes and thoughts coming your way!

Hang in there!!!!

This too shall pass.

Dan_Browne · Coal Joined: Feb 08, 2008 Posts: 16

Shannymara,

Forgive us all.

Then forgive your family.

Then forgive yourself.

xerces · Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 5:40 pm Post subject: Re: Grief

Shannymara,

It is a real joy knowing you these last 2 years. I hope that you'll feel better again one of these days. Smile

RedStateGreen · Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 6:13 pm Post subject: Re: Grief

Hugs if okay. If you can't use them, feel free to pass them along. Smile

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Pops · Posted: Wed Feb 13, 2008 6:34 pm Post subject: Re: Grief

Yea, Susan’s older brother died yesterday.
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Shannymara · Master Joined: Oct 04, 2004 Posts: 5433 Location: Oklahoma

It's very interesting that this thread got resurrected this morning, because last night I had to shoot my dog. I haven't ever done anything like that before, just killed a few chickens and fish. I loved the dog, too. Sad

Anyway, thanks again to everyone for the kindness. I've been doing a lot better since I started this thread, but this week has been a tough one.
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davep · Expert Joined: Jun 21, 2006 Posts: 1252 Location: Europe

If it's any consolation, here's Snowball with my daughter and the kitten who turned up at Christmas out of nowhere.

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BigTex · Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 5:21 pm Post subject: Re: Grief

My dad died two years ago and it was the worst experience of my life. He was diagnosed with lung cancer and survived about 15 months before passing away, so it was not sudden and there were plenty of chances to say goodbye. He was very brave and it was very inspiring to me and others who watched him suffer. I spoke at his funeral and described how hard death had to work to overcome him. It was a long time before I felt anything like normal, since he had that god-like quality parents sometimes have, as well as being my best friend. I'm not sure that the experience has made me stronger, but it has definitely made me aware of the intense emotional pain we all must feel at one time or another.

The only consolation I felt was that I knew he would be disappointed if his passing caused me to lose hope or the ability to find happiness in life. This idea is the one anchor that seems to be there any time I need it--I ask myself what my dad would have wanted me do after he died, and I am certain that he would want me to grieve and then move on, clinging to all the good memories without being haunted by the bad ones.

I think that losing a loved one is the point at which a lot of people actually grow up. Sometimes you don't even realize how childish your worldview is until you have to fit something like death into it.
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PeakOiler · Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 8:32 am Post subject: Re: Grief

I'm late to this thread since I rarely visit the psychology forum, let alone read all the posts, but I wanted to share my condolences, Shanny. I hope time has continued healing your wounds.

<<hug>>

James
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Pops · Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 3:48 pm Post subject: Re: Grief